give u a flower

Pencil drawing by Neza. Year 2017

I give you a flower, don’t let it die, let it grow

I give you a flower, hold it close to your heart

I give you a flower, nurture it and water it every day

I give you a flower, out of kindness, love, and hope

I give you a flower, as a reminder of your worth

I give you a flower, to smell it every morning

I give you a flower, to take away all your worries and pain

I give you a flower, to keep you company when you are lonely

I give you a flower, to always bring a smile on your face

my flower

Painting in progress. By Neza

I give you a flower, with a tender smile to guide you through the day

I give you a flower, to scare the darkness away

I give you a flower, because living is not enough

One must have sunshine, freedom, and a pretty flower

I give you a flower, to wash away all the dirt from your soul

I give you a flower, to make you happy

I give you a flower, to show that I care

I give you a flower, to see those tears of happiness drop

I give you a flower, just because I love flowers

Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Forest of the moon

Painting by Neza. Year 2017


It is magical, sometimes scary

Full of wonder and treasures

With beauty that no man can deny

Only the one to blind to see will never know

It is the wildness that makes it interesting

Do not be frightened, just keep moving

I warn you to the coldness that will make you shiver

Just stand still and approach it

Can you feel it now, how peaceful it can be?

The fresh air will take your breath away

It is foggy and dark but daring

night forest

Painting by Neza. Year 2017

Listen closely and close your eyes

Relax for a moment, let it in

Embrace the surrounding, feel it inside

Listen to the Birds sing, let the wind drifting you away

The smell different from all you’ve ever smelt

Let the forest whisper to you

The words of wisdom, the words of love

Dream, image, meditate and create your world

Worry not of the darkness, it a friendly kind of dark

Be you, be free coz selflessness never hurts

Only in the forest you can go to lose your mind and find your soul

Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Painting by Neza. Year 2017

You can see it in her eyes

The smile on her face says it all

Walking through the streets like a heavenly goddess

Humor is her state of mind

Worry never touches her thoughts

All she does is dance

Dance to the rhythm of the wind

Set free by the music inside her

She is free like a bird in the sky


Painting by Neza. Year 2017

Like the stars in the sky

Like the light of the moon

Like the golden sun of the morning

Like the twilight below the horizon

She is never afraid to rise and shine

Her voice sweet like a beautiful melody of a violin

Never afraid to raise it high

Freedom is her name

She is free like a bird in the sky

Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Painting by Neza. Year 2017

As a young kid, I had so many doubts about Africa; I never believed in a beautiful Africa, I never had that love that I do have now for Africa. As years passed and the more I grew up my eyes were wide open and I started to see clearly. The Africa I knew at a young age is totally different from the one I know today. I also don’t blame myself for that because that is what I saw and heard that made me see Africa as I saw it by then. As an observer, it wasn’t just me that had an ugly picture of Africa but some other kids too had the same picture in their frames. Even today try and ask any kid where he/she wants to be in 5 or 10 years, I think you already know the answer. This doesn’t only appear to kids, adults also fall into this trap.

As I said before, none of this is our fault or the people in Africa, I don’t know who to blame here, but really there has to be someone.

I never believe that Africa was always as bad as they say it is, Africa was tarnished and turned into a world of trouble, and when the name Africa is mentioned immediately what comes to mind is Malaria, Famine, Aids, Wars, Drugs, Rape, no freedom and very many more ugly kind of descriptions of Africa. But do you ever ask yourself why? All this is the work of media and the people behind it, don’t ask me who because I can’t tell too. Whatever the media chooses to show people about Africa that is what people will ever know about Africa. That is the picture they have of Africa.

Yes, I am not saying that there is no war in Africa, or Famine or disease but that’s not it. The other side of Africa is not reported in media. Trust me every continent on this planet earth has got troubles, some are even huge that Africa it’s not reported. Sometimes when you observe keenly you will find that in most cases all these wars and diseases and etc are poured on the blind folded Africa and on the other way round it is blamed on Africa and Africans.

This is the Africa I know, the Africa I love, my Africa.

There is a bright side of Africa, and sometimes I get out of words to describe Africa. This is one part of the world where life seems to be simple and friendly at times, growing in Africa is the best part, because it is one of a kind, playing, jumping up and down getting your hands dirty in the dust, mud and so on is really what brings children together which will later give them childhood to remember, and memories to never fade. You might not understand what I am talking about but surely those who grew up in Africa know what I am saying. There might have been no computers, and games but I promise you only that interaction between kids brought build a strong bond that can never crack.

Africa is the best place you would ever want to live; there is extreme beauty, where the sun shines smoothly through its pleasing nature. There is beauty in each corner of Africa, the people, the wild life, an awesome landscape decorated with soothing wind from the mountains, trees, lakes, rivers and more. When it comes to the people of Africa, I can say we are one of a kind, the strongest of all people not just physically but also inside. There is love in Africa, not some ordinary love but extraordinary love. The love we are taught by our mothers that touch at heart and sticks there forever.


Pencil drawing by Neza. Year 2017

Sometimes I think that am kind of obsessed with an African woman, and I mean the true African woman. The one who carries her baby on the back, the one who teaches her children all the morals, dos and don’ts, who gives them love as heritage to carry on from generation to generation, the one who is not afraid to breast feed her baby so not to lose her shape, because she knows the value of the bond that will never go away forever, the one who would give everything to protect her own, there is always kindness in her eyes. That is my definition of Africa, the Africa that is shaped by our mothers from day one when we open our eyes and have the first sight.

Wake up Africa, it’s not time to run away. Never think there is a better place you are going to find better that Africa. Home will always be home, it is said don’t try to look for a beautiful place instead make that place beautiful so you will never ever have to run. And from there you will find beauty in this alluring continent of Africa.


Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Painting by Neza. Year 2017

There is a saying that is common in Kinyarwanya referring to a person who loves him or herself. URIKUNDA. When someone tells you this “urikunda”, it always comes in a negative sense. You are referred to as a mean or selfish person. Most people don’t understand the importance of loving yourself; they think if you love yourself you are mean. Loving yourself is not selfish but not loving yourself you are being mean and selfish to no one else but you.

There are so many things that you won’t achieve in life if you ignore self-love. Self-love will bring you confidence; it will show you how important you are, no matter what other people will think of you. You will get to know your value, your worth and the uniqueness in you. With no self-love, there is no way other people will love you. If you don’t give love to yourself how will someone ever know to give you that love? You will also never be able to give love to another person if you don’t give it to yourself first.

Quit whatever is holding you back, and start right now, do things that make you happy, take care of yourself, and start exercising. Take care of your body, your skin, and your health. Try meditation, take a trip by yourself, go to beautiful places that you have always wanted to go, treat yourself like someone special and there you will create a solid thing in you that no one can crush. You will be your own person. It is said that the person you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.

Here is a beautiful poem of self-love by Charlie Chaplin

As I begin To Love Myself

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

There will never be comfort in your life, if you don’t love yourself. Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself before you fall in love with anyone else.

Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Painting by Neza. Year 2017

  • What is your dream?
  • What is your passion?
  • What are you good at?

These are a few questions that would change your life completely; they would make you successful if well attended to. Sometimes it is hard to figure out one of the above questions because many people are stack in their daily routine and have no time to know what they like any more or what they could do best and they are like would it matter anyway, they just grab what life gives them and go with it no matter how much they don’t like or appreciate what they do, many think that there is no any other choice.

There is always a choice and what you decide to do every day is a choice too, so better choose wisely because everyone is determined by the choice they make. I am no expert to be saying this but am a good observer, a good listener and socially I meet different people from different parts of the world, though not many but the good ones and those that matter.

Talent is one of the things to consider if you want to live a life you enjoy, every human being possesses more than one talent, and you will be surprised to find out what you can do. There is a lot of potential hidden down there that is willing to come out if you yourself you are willing to let it out. How can one discover their talent? It is one of the most confusing things to understand where many of us these days are misled. Sincerely speaking me myself it took me a while to know what I can do best or what my talent is. And up to now I cannot tell you that this is my best area but at least I know where I fall and what I like. It is sometimes hard to discover this, because we are driven by the society and we tend to think that what is trending might be what we can throw ourselves to. A good example, most of the young people specifically here in Rwanda think that they can all be musicians, they think they are talented to be musicians. One wakes and just imagines being Jay Polly or Teta Diana or some other artist. Truthfully this is not their talent, they are just being misled by own desires and what is trending.

One of the good and the best trick as I might call it that might help you to discover your talent, just drive back to when you were a little kid. Write down what you liked to do or just try to remember what made you happy, the dreams you had, what you couldn’t leave without doing. Is it music, is it art, is it just playing with fellows, is it cleaning your room? And many more. In all that you will find one outstanding thing that would answer your question. Not only this but there are several more ways that could help you know your talent like asking your friend and family, they could help you discover by telling you what you are good at because most of the times we ourselves mistake what we are good at and what we like doing but others can tell the difference.

After discovering your talent, it is always connected with the questions mentioned. You will hear many people saying that follow your dream, follow your passion, do what you like, these sayings are not just a myth. They are of value and would lead you to a life you dreamed of.

Starting with passion, it is that very strong feeling of loving something, something you desire the most. It is said that when you do something that you are passionate about you succeed. Why do they say this? When you are passionate about something you give it all you have. All your effort, all your energy is put on that and the most interesting part of it is that you enjoy what you are doing no matter the consequences, and this makes it more to die for. To understand this perfectly is when you meet two people, one who is in a profession just because that is what he studied and the other one who is in a profession because he loves it and would give everything for his work.

Saying all this am not telling you to wake up in the morning and quit jobs because you have some other passion you prefer, it all starts slowly by slowly and first build on that passion you desire the most, have a plan. It is said that allow your passion to become your purpose, and it will one day become your profession.

Everyone dreams and that one who does not dream will be stuck in one place forever. Dreams are everywhere, we dream during the day, we dream during the night and all we dream about is the kind of life we would like to live, the kind of jobs we would want to keep and the things that sometimes we feel we cannot achieve but by following your dreams one day you would leave your dream. Everyone has always had dreams since they were kids, because every child in the world always have a saying like “when i grow up i want to be this and this” sometimes they these dreams fade as we grow up but not all of them or even sometimes we build on other dreams as we grow up. For someone to live a dream, the first thing is to let go of your comfort zone, stand up and work hard to get what you have longed for your entire life, and there success will come. Or as it is said if you do not build your own dream you will be hired by someone else to build their dreams. So better start now.

How can someone know what he/she is good at? Trust me you will know by people around you telling you so. You might also know that you are good at something but in most cases you will confuse what you like to do the most as what you are good at. Sometimes these two go hand in hand, and sometimes we also confuse them but the luckiest person is the one who knows what he good at and gives it his or her best.

It is not simple to figure out all the above but it is possible, you could live your dream one day, you could find yourself doing the things you love to do and living a life that is almost satisfying because we human beings are never satisfied, we always want more and more. But a profession of your passion, a life of your dream, this will give you peace at heart which is the best you could ever want.


Written by:

Neza Shemsa




Pencil drawing by Neza. Year 2017

A woman is strong, a woman is powerful, a woman is intelligent, a woman is a warrior, a woman is the best definition of an extra ordinary being. She is naturally merciful, created in her own way. A woman is unique.

Why want to throw all that away, and be something else or someone else? Why lose all that beauty, all that pride and uniqueness?

Believe me am not against Gender Equality, but there are some things that do not add up when it come to interpretations of gender equality. This is me speaking, a woman will never be equal to a man in any ways, because man and woman are totally different. Physically and naturally speaking. What a woman needs is not to be like a man or imitate a man. All she needs is to be given equal rights and opportunities.

In simple words, what is gender equality according to Neza(ME)

Gender equality is when a boy goes to school and a girl goes to school, a boy becomes an engineer and a girl too, a boy as a doctor and a girl as a doctor. Do not favor any of them. Give them equal opportunities and let them fight for it, the one who wins the battle definitely will be deserving.

This is what Gender Equality isn’t according to me.

In this life there are two different people, who are totally different, one is a man and the other one is a woman. These two people were meant and created to be different. Each of them have their duties to fulfill. This was long known even before our great grandparents.

A woman is the heart of the family or house, she takes care of all that is in the house, she even takes care of the man himself. A man is the head of the family or house and that’s all he is and will be.

Things start to go sideways when a man or a woman starts claiming duties that aren’t made for him/her. There is always a reason for why things are meant to be the way they are, and no need to question nature, because nature is nature and nature knows the best.

Yes a woman can be a doctor, an engineer, a president, a pilot and whoever she wants to be and that is what we are fighting for, to be free and have equal rights because this is a free world where no one has a right to deny a boy or a girl what is meant for them.

My point is clear, we have our differences but at the end of the day we are all humans and that is what matters the most. In this life we all want the same things, happiness, joy, love, riches, respect, success and many more. This world is open for everyone, let the one who is able fight, fight and claim what belongs to them. Man or woman just take what is yours.

Writing this, it is because I’ve heard many people interpreting Gender Equality in many different versions and some of them really suck on it. They tend to give you another picture of what a woman should be, they want to totally change our true nature as women. And all the above is my version of Gender Equality.

Am saying this because am a woman, not just a woman but a proud woman who is grateful to be a woman. A woman who knows her worth and doesn’t want be like a man, behave like a man, act like a man, or even think like a man, but a woman who just wants to be a woman because that is who she is, will always be, and will never change.

Written by:

Neza Shemsa